HE DOESN'T KNOW ANY BETTER

 So a few weeks ago I went through my phone and cleaned out all five numbers I received this year. None of the men intrigued me in any way so I trashed them. I wasn't feeling their conversation nor the vibe. I'm a loss cause if you can't intrigue me through conversation. Nonetheless one in particular I actually remember his name. I just knew I wouldn't hear from him again because I stopped taking his calls; along with refusing to send him a picture of me. He had also gotten too comfortable with me too fast. I have a name and unless we have established some type of serious level of comfort I am going to need to be addressed by my name. Not baby, bae, boo, sweety, or what have you. The only exception to this rule is when island men call me Beautiful. Double standard you say? I think not! Beautiful is a compliment thank you very much. Anyway I just wasn't feeling him at all. His charm was nice enough for him to give me his number and for me to text him, but after a few messages I was totally not into him in the least bit. After letting him know that I would rather him address me by my name, I had to let him know that I don't like getting phone calls at 10 o'clock at night. There is plenty of time during the day to converse with me. To choose the most inopportune to call shows a lack of consideration. Unless it's a result of conflicting work schedules, but this wasn't the case. The biggest thing that turned me off what his constant talk of wanting to give me a massage. It's not your profession for one. Secondly you don't know me well enough to be inviting your hands to be touching on me. Skipping all the phases of trying to get to know someone to immediately trying to feel them up. I am not eager to be touched! Maybe that is the pickup line he uses often with women and it works, but with me not so much. Complete turn off to say the lease. So this guy calls me last night and I answered because of course his number no longer is programmed in my phone. I'm thinking it was one of my home girls that I haven't talked to in a few weeks calling me from a different number. Wrong! The conversation went a bit like this:

Me: Hello?
Him: Hey what's up?
Me: Puzzled Ummmm nothing much. Who is this?
Him: D***n
Me: Ooohhh hey. Sounding less enthused than before and rolling my eyes at the same time.
Him: I don't quite remember, but at some point he asked when he would be able to see me again.
Me: Told him my availability just to pull his card. He has come off like a bulls**t type of man so I know he'll never pick a time or date that's most convenient for the both of us. 
Him: Ohhh well I'll have to see. I mean I am off on Fridays, but yea I'll hit you back and see what's up.

 Now my thing is, if you're so eager to see me why must you have to call me back after knowing when I'm available?  Again rolling my eyes  and calling B.S. Just complete foolery. I think his only interest is trying to get sexual with me and I'm not with all that. He better find someone else to play with. 

With all of that being said it just made me think of what I consider proper etiquette when you just meet someone. Mainly for the men because I've met some men that just have it all twisted. At least when it comes to me.

1.  Be considerate:

• Be mindful of the phone call and text times. If it's in the beginning stages it's best to keep the talk time at decent hours. Once a woman has given the okay, only then will it be appropriate for you to contact her at later hours. 
• Ask her out on lunch dates until there has been a comfort level established between the two of you. 

2.  Chillin at the house especially at night hours isn't considered an appropriate date time for a woman that's looking for a  whole lot  more than penis .

• Inviting a woman to hang out at your place at night leaves an impression that a man only is interested in trying to sleep with her. Stop thinking with your penis head and start thinking head with a brain. 
• If   a woman wants to be intimate with a man she will let him know at her own time and pace. Until then a man's focus should only be about seeing if there is a possible chemistry between the two. 

3.  Keep the pet names to yourself:

• Calling me sweety, baby, bae, sexy, etc early shows a sign that you are trying to move way too fast too soon. I prefer to be addressed by my name unless I have given indication that I don't mind. This one is quite personal to me. It's cool that you are into me like that, but can I figure out if I'm into you the same way? Slow it down.

4.   Take initiative:

• If you are interested in seeing a woman, don't hesitate to invite her out. 
• I suggest a lunch date. Lunch dates take off the pressure and awkwardness of going on a date at night. 
• Ask her about her times of  availability and go from there. Women like a take charge man. Forward thinking and especially paying attention to detail.

These are just a few things that I know can bug when when a man calls himself showing interest in me. Am I being too strict? Do you find that you run into the same issues? Let me know. 

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